Updated: Feb 18
Do you think we should say "YES" to everything?
The world is full of advices that we should. After all, if successful people give us this advice, it should be true, shouldn't it?
But, can we open our minds for a little possibility that it might not be true? Just for a tiny winy little one, please.
Most "say yes to all" advices focus on the argument that we should say yes to every opportunity.
But is every opportunity and opportunity for your desires? Or it is just something plainly for the achievement, to put it on CV as a badge of honour?
An opportunity is just one side of the coin of making the decision.
It is not about "saying yes to all" in order to grow".
It is about asking your gut and intuition, if that is something that you truly want to do.
I mean, how much time it'll take you to do all the things to which you have said "YES"?
If you say "YES" to everything, you will always be there to please the others.
Pleasing others is nice and
and we should
all be a little
bit more nicer to other people.
But you cannot agree with every single preposition. I mean you have a life too.
We cannot be givers, without being getters too and sometimes we just need to get more energy, while relaxing or doing "our stuff".
And, yes, that definitely includes saying NO to things.
We truly cannot say yes to everything.
Honestly, saying “NO “ is just as freaking important as saying "YES". Because it shows your priorities, your values and your boundaries.
In fact, saying "NO" is freaking liberating. Try it out, with a big scream.
In today's world we say much more "YES" than "NO".
How we can prove it? Well, let's check how many miserable, unhappy people we have on earth. These are all the ones that say "YES" to things they do not truly want.
Not a nice life, buddy. Not at all.
Also, let's make one thing clear. Saying "NO" does not make you a bad guy.
Saying "YES" and not meaning it does.
Cause you certainly gonna complain about it to someone...
gonna show your discomfort and uneasiness.
Believe me, people see.
And, in general, what is the point to start something if you are not totally in it? Life is about being present, not being half way there.
You might also be that person that thinks that you might loose good opportunities, if you won’t say yes to everything.
Truth is, you certainly will.
Life is about choosing and prioritizing, so definitely you will gain and loose something all the time.
This is is how life goes and it will also go like that in the future, does not matter we want it or not.
In truth, a good option does not mean that it is a good option FOR YOU.
Maybe it is a good option only for a short while, but it might not be something that aligns to your values and future dreams.
What if , simply you are working towards your dreams and cannot take more, even if it is a good option?
Juggling too many things at once is also not the best success idea. Over-burn does not solve anything. Just gives you stress with annoying side effects.
Be healthy and stop throwing in all the “YES'ES" to everyone and everywhere.
Do not feel as an asshole to say “No. Because you are not.
A "NO" is a divine respect of your own time and the things that are already present in your life. And you freaking need that, if you seek to live a happy life.