Alone or lonely? Does these words truly mean the same?
Ok ok, I know I know that noone truly wants to speak about loneliness that much ... and this is why we are gonna speak about it in this blog post. Baaam, the rebel mentality!
Let's admit it, in our world no one really likes the loners. Simply because loneness scare us. It just does not seem as a good human identity.
The person, who takes time for himself certainly looks and feels scarry. In the end, who the heck wants to be alone, if you can be social?
All people, who like alone time are either weirds, nerds or have some psycho tendencies, right?
We truly believe that we all need to love socialising in our society to thrive. We need to want to be near others all the time, we ned to love everyone, be nice to everyone and definitely communicate with everyone.
Even with people you do not know. No, not creepy at all...
We focus so much on communication with others that we forget one fundamental thing - communication with ourselves.
Not that communication, where you are talking with yourself constantly. It is the one, where you listen to yourself.
And, in order to properly listen, you need to be silent, you need to be aware, present and get deep into the core. Truth is, you can do it only by being alone.
So, no, being alone and lonely are not the same.
We all need to be alone from time to time to face ourselves, our environment, the present situation, to examine the possibilities and changed beliefs.
It does not matter, if you are an introvert or an extrovert. You need to listen to your true-self, in order to grow and be healthy.
If you are one of these people, who insist that you do not need alone time....Well, you need it even more.
The fact that you feel uncomfortable being alone signifies that you are in desperate need of it.
If you can't spend at least 10 min a day with yourself without any interruptions, well....that's exactly what should be scary. Scary, cause you keep pushing your true identity away.
You think you cannot be alone due to the buzzing thoughts?
This is exactly why you need to be alone.
This is the scream of your body's wish to be listened to. To experience those buzzing thoughts without jdugement. Cause that is the only way to deal with it.
If you'll keep pushing the buzzing thoughts away, you'll just keep accumulating it.
And believe me, there are limits how much your body can accumulate. Once these limits are crossed - you explode. Explode with some drama, stress, insomnia, conflicts or an illness.
In fact, the huge amount of buzzing thoughts are already a sign of stress.
We all have a big number of thoughts throughout a day, but the buzzing of them occurs only when we over-stress about them and our life situations. So, that already shows that your body needs healing.
The healing of your soft listening.
After all, you have one mouth and two ears for a reason too. Use them wisely. Even for yourself.